I am a huge Colts football fan. From the moment they arrived from Baltimore in the middle of the night, they were my team. Last Sunday showed how much had changed.
In the early days, I knew there would be rough patches. But, I believed. Every game, I hoped for the team to work together for a win. Through disappointment, I kept believing.
The Peyton years were glorious. Sure, there were rough moments, but being a fan was easy.
Then the drought. Disappointment after disappointment chipped away at belief. Finally, it became easier to believe they would let me down than to think they would come through.
Last Sunday, I turned on the game to spend Sunday afternoon cheering. The team started well. But then, the other team rallied, and the Colts fell apart. It seemed the same old story.
Knowing the backyard needed mowing, I opted to mow instead of “wasting another afternoon in disappointment.” Only later that evening did I hear the team I so desired had shown up. And won.
I missed the team doing exactly what I hoped they would do. Instead, I gave up on them.
Marriages can travel this exact path. We marry as complete fans of the other person. We know there will be rough patches, but we believe in each other. There can even be glorious moments. But, when disappointment after disappointment becomes the norm—somewhere along the way, we stop believing. Instead of assuming the other person will find a way to come through, we assume they will disappoint.
Even when the other person does exactly what we hoped, we can miss it. We’ve already moved on to something else and fail to see the effort.
If this is your marriage, we at Resolution Mediation would like to help. You might desire to find a way back to the hope in each other. We offer Couples Mediation—a mediation process where the two of you define the issues dividing you and come to agreements about what to do differently.
Or, you might be the couple where the disappointments have been so great, faith in a good outcome is lost. If so, we can help you navigate moving apart in a collaborative, fair way.
If disappointment has undermined your marriage, give us a call—317-793-0825.
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